I threw my first wedding ring (the one I had worn for nearly nine years) into the Caribbean Sea.
My wife had inscribed, “You amaze me” in that one.
We thought long and hard about what to have inscribed in my second ring.
“You amaze me…still.”
I like it.
I never thought about the whole wedding ring situation when I was young. I mean, I was a boy, so there’s that. It just never occurred to me that I’d have to wear mine on the “wrong hand.” It’s not like I had a choice, anyway. My future wife would just have to deal with it.
And deal with it she has.
I don’t remember ever talking with her about the fact that I’d be wearing my wedding ring on my right hand. It was never an issue. I do remember, however, deciding that we would save money by getting me a simple, silver ring. We got it online for $15. And it lasted me nearly ten years.
I love what wedding rings represent; unending love between spouses. So romantical. We all look forward to sliding that ring onto the finger of the one we love. For those of us in the limb-different community, though, we need to get creative. Like Nick Vujicic. You’ve probably seen him. He doesn’t have arms or legs. He just got engaged and I’m curious about what he’s going to do. And my new friend George is missing both arms. He’s an incredible musician, so he’ll have no trouble finding a lady friend. I’m excited to see what he does one day when he’s standing at the altar ready to get married.
I’d love to hear your stories! If you’re limb-different, how did you get creative with your wedding ring? And if you’re a parent or relative of an LD child, don’t worry. Just like everything else, they’ll figure it out.
If worse comes to worse, you could always move to a country where the right hand is the right hand for the wedding ring.
On second thought…don’t do that.
Here’s how I put on and take off my wedding ring:
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Necklace makes sense. Or tattoo it on the chest or back?
I like the tattoo idea!
Ditto I never thought about a wedding ring (for me) until Ruth told me she wanted me to wear one a monthe before our wedding. The “wanted” was more like “I insist” .. so there it was my first experience of wifely obedience .. mine just bears my initials on it
A friend withmissing fingers on his left hand wears his too on his right hand like you ..
Bless you, brother
My mother actually thought of this on the day I was born… I guess with girls that is a normal thought… I was nervous about the whole wedding, from the houndreds of people that have commented about it being on the wrong hand, to having someone that didn’t know me marrying us and saying place the ring on her left hand… that isn’t what I should have thought about on my wedding day but I didn’t want a very uncomfortable moment with 200 people.some of whom I had never met… I will always have people tell me it is on the wrong hand, but now that the excitement of being a bride is gone I treat it as a learning experience for the person who hasn’t quite mastered the art of tact…
Gee, I stick my finger in my mouth and pull the wide band off with my teeth. After seeing your video I’m wondering if I could use the short RAE stump to help. If it works, I’ll let you know.
Sounds good, Judy! If I used your method, I’m sure I’d be scolded. “You’ll swallow it!” they’d say. hehe
My brother’s arms end right at the elbows. He wears a silver bracelet that was customed made. It fits very snug but it is definitely his wedding band.
My fiance and I are currently planning our wedding and with his left arm being paralyzed, this is something we have been talking about. Wearing the ring on his right hand is something we haven’t considered.. hmm. Thanks! 🙂
Just wandering around your old posts! Very first thought when my daughter was born “where will she put her ring?” and second thought “who will choose her?” On her right hand , of course! And exactly the type of man who I would want to marry any of my daughters. I dont even have to know your wife to realize that she is exactly the woman your mother dreamed she’d be.
I’ve just discovered your blog… & I’m loving it! I myself have a disability to my left hand, so I could say I’m living one handed as well except I do still have the use of the left hand. I’ve had it pretty much since birth (wasn’t born this way) but at the age of 25 years old only just coming to terms with it and being braver about it. I blog as well, though I have only ever blogged about my hand twice (my most recent post: http://www.whatwegandidnext.com/2013/04/megan-her-hand-update.html).
I too wear my wedding ring on the right hand! & I/ we get messages all the time why we wear our rings on different hands, as not many people know about my left hand. It feels good to find someone who also wears their wedding ring on the right hand for the same reason! Looking forward to reading more about your blog.
I think thats one of the most common questions I was asked when I was at school. “What will you do when you get married”.
Uhm… wear it on my right hand?
I’m not a big ring wearer, though, so I might wear it on a necklace. Who knows!
I wear mine on my right hand also. I remember discussing it when I was younger, but no one has ever said anything yo me about it since I’ve been married.